Friday, November 16, 2012

French Children Don't Throw Food

My husband and I have different approach when it comes to parenting. I feel like my love (husband) is more strict than I do, he treats and talk to Yves like an adult. I felt that Yves is too young to understand these things (Reminder: he will just be 2 months old this 19 November, dah!)

But as the days go by, I noticed that Yves is well-behave when his father is around, they will play and I can see that my bebe is enjoying his time with his dad. So, I let my husband take charge when he is at home which means when he is feeding Yves and he started to cry, I try not to run and asked, what happened? please do this and do that...I totally try to leave them alone and have my ME time or do some household chores...and what's the outcome? sometimes I feel like Yves can understand us like an adult and slowly he can sleep on his own, he plays alone while we eat our dinner and I can sleep longer.  It's not all the time like this but I have faith that it will be better as he grows older.

Nowadays, French parenting is on blogs, in discussions and in books that are on bestseller lists.
They said that the French are raising happy, well-behaved children without all the anxiety. So to learn more about it as well understand my husband, I got this book.

I got this e-book from SKOOB

Some basic points from this book that I agree
  • Children should say hello, goodbye, thank you and please. It helps them to learn that they aren't the only ones with feelings and needs.
  • When they misbehave, give them the "big eyes"—a stern look of admonishment.
  • Allow only one snack a day. In France, it's at 4 or 4:30.
  • Remind them (and yourself) who's the boss. French parents say, "It's me who decides."
  • Don't be afraid to say "no." Kids have to learn how to cope with some frustration.
  • Learn how to wait
  • Play on their own

so I still have a lot of reading to do...  In my opinion all these things are just a sound basis for understanding the interesting relationship between parents and children.  The perfect mother doesn't exist.  So the most important thing is just enjoy and have fun being a mom.

Just a short video of Mommy and Yves playtime..



  1. Oh my! He has the most beautiful big eyes, he looks a lot more like you! very cute video :)

    1. really big eyes and he is really my minnie me

  2. Oh my just saw this video! He is so cute and so guapo!
    I have to say it's not just the French who can raise well mannered children.
    Being a parent is tough and we all have our own individual style of parenting influenced by our culture, our surroundings, our understanding of our own self and most of all fuelled by our maternal instinct - so I say read all the books and it will give you insights but at the end of the day, follow your heart!
    There is no such thing as spoiling during infancy but tough love must start at the advent of toddlerhood.
    It is such a rewarding moment when you hear somebody commenting how well mannered your child is!
    And I don't believe in overfeeding.

    1. Pardon my Singlish in the video hehehe
      He is guapo and macho na Mummy Nors, getting bigger each day.
      Yesterday we went to the Dr and he is almost 6kg.

      I just finished my book and all I can say is that it is really hard to be a parent and I salute you and Mommy Mads for raising a happy and confident kids like Emilia and Madison. Raising a children with character demands time and attention. While having children may be “doing what comes naturally,” being a good parent is much more complicated.. So I agree with you to just follow your heart since each day is a learning episode.